I realised that my perception was very limited, that i had not been able to see beyond the label, or my definition of the label anyway. And who am i to judge? The word submissive seems to be used more like an adjective than a role in many places in the world — and i like this analogy — that Dominance and submission describes what people do - Master and slave describes who people are.
I have observed — especially in America, that there are many who see a huge distinction between submissive and slave.. He still has control, He still has the final say, He is still my Master, i still obey. During my research i came across several good points on the differences between a slave and a submissive. A submissive makes a choice conscious or otherwise to serve and obey each time an order is given, whereas a slave makes a choice just once, to obey at all times and to submit to the will of one person.
A submissive accepts submission whilst a slave accepts obedience. Procrastinating Your Procrastination! Post a Comment. Home RSS Contact. February 23, Sub versus Slave ,. As I make my rounds reading different posts, I am always intrigued how so many have different ideas about the most basic of definitions that we utilize in this lifestyle.
Sadly, it seems that people use terminology that fits their purpose. While this is okay on one hand, it does create a great deal of confusion when people are posting these things. It is always important to remember that newer people are reading the words without the ability to filter the information out. Sub Versus Slave. Sex Slaves. Anonymous said Me on December 26, at PM said Blogger on June 6, at AM said Blogger on August 20, at PM said Blogger on October 18, at PM said Newer Post Older Post Home.
Subscribe to: Post Comments Atom. Recent Posts. We must accept that any definition is merely another form of labelling imposed by the wider society.
Labels are a way of compartmentalising things which we might otherwise struggle to understand. Every couple needs to arrive at their own working definition for what they have. It should be clearly understood that the definition is a work in progress and will change over time. Anyone who thinks that there are only fifty shades of grey pun intended is in for a big surprise! A submissive may choose to submit sexually, but outside the bedroom or dungeon they will may still behave as equals with their Master or Mistress.
The sub may choose to be a domestic servant but still maintain equality in their relationship. A real slave, in contrast, wishes every aspect of their life to be controlled by the Master or Mistress. Of course in reality they will seek out their owner and so will be making choices regarding who that person is. At the end of the day they can still choose to end the relationship at any time. There are good guys out there. I've been lucky enough to find one, however, there are many scary people out there.
To me, there is quite a difference between being submissive and a slave. I think it would be easier for me to start on the submissive side. In my 7 years in the lifestyle, I started out as a sub. I really feel that until the past 2 years I remained a sub. With that being said, I had more options in life, at least in my mind. A submissive retains the power over themselves and their body. Many are not going to agree with me on this.
I don't feel that discipline, true discipline should be put in place with a sub. If a submissive still has power over themselves then how can they really mess up to the point of punishment outside of play. I had considered myself a slave before moving in with Master, yet I don't think it was until he assigned me to look up the terms submissive and slave that I truly realized the differences. Unfortunately, I've lost that writing, but the idea is still in my mind.
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