Or somebody asks you a question and you need some time to frame an answer. In all of these situations, you can no longer continue speaking and invariably you end up taking a vocalized pause before you continue to the next point.
A good way to avoid this situation is to take your time when you are asked a question. Do not respond to the question immediately. Also try to slow down when you are talking.
This will give you enough time to think about your next point before you complete one thought. As always prior preparation and rehearsal would help you keep your thoughts and ideas flowing naturally. When speaking on an unfamiliar or abstract topic, you need more time to think than you normally do. Imagine you are to explain a complex problem to the students in a class. You have to simplify everything so that it becomes clear to the students.
Sort of like a filler filibuster say that 10 times fast. Faster than you can read THIS. Or THIS. You know the scene: There is an awkward silence where everyone feels uncomfortable. Followed by another awkward silence. Rinse, repeat. And so do filler words. They look bad. We know it. But we give in to the pressure of response. I verbalize my flow of thought and my thought train can be in sporadic circles that only make sense to me Well, and at this point, Gini Dietrich.
Poor soul. When I slow my overall speech patterns it gives me time to choose my words and collect my thoughts. It allows me that space to process and think. And the crazy thing is…it works. No one shuns me for pausing to think. I am confident of my own ability to respond in a smart and effective manner. I know my value is worth waiting for.
This sounds cliche, but it rings true when working with clients or new business prospects. You need to assure yourself on your own abilities prior to the conversation. If you need a mantra, develop a mantra. Find a way to cue yourself that you are, in fact, a capable, exceptional communications pro and your expertise is an asset. An asset that is only weighed down by filler words. Listen to speakers you admire.
Notice how they pause and slow their tempo. Use body language. Habitual Filler Words Another common reason we use filler words is simply habit. Record your video conferences. Pick a random topic and video yourself talking about it. Video, critique. Have other people provide feedback. Another use for filler words is when we are speaking about something deep or complicated, and we're aware the person listening might need more time to catch up. This goes for the person talking, too.
Sometimes you might be racking your brain for the right words, because you're having a mind-blank or you've been asked a particularly difficult or technical question. Equally, you might just be making noises to signal you have something to say, and your brain just hasn't caught up yet.
In a blog post on Psychology Today , Dr. John R. He said tag words such as "you know," "I mean," and "right" are used to seek confirmation in the listener, or convince them. The word 'like' indicates that what is being said is different than what the speaker actually means.
Similarly, "um" and "uh" delay speech, giving someone time to evaluate their answers, to ensure what they are saying will be believed. Of course this doesn't mean that everyone who hesitates is a liar. Schafer points out that little words can also be out of habit, and are used pretty much automatically during our conversations.
So it really depends on the situation. In , Dr. Charlyn M. Laserna and her colleagues analyzed the recordings of everyday speech collected from hundreds of participants from studies between and
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