The closest that I can come up with is if your grandparents had two kids: your mom and your uncle, and then your grandfather impregnated your mother, and had you. But in that case, you'd still, technically, only be a half brother to your uncle. So, Ars, help me answer this sick question: is it possible to be an uncle and a brother to the same person? Your mom has a son.
He then fucks her to teach his other brother a lesson, and you are created. There you go. Unfortunately, I dismissed it because it was stupid. If you're excluding a half-brother or half-uncle, no. For someone to be your brother, they must have the same set of parents as you. To be your uncle, they must have the same set of parents as one of your parents. There's no overlap there. That's still only a half-brother, since you and he have different fathers.
This is the closest I can think of. You have a couple with three male kids: Kid1, Kid2, Kid3. Imagine your are Kid1. The couple gets divorced and the female and mother marries Kid2. Kid3 is now your brother and your uncle via marriage. No, an uncle-brother cannot exist unless you can figure out a way for someone to be their own father. Ah, so this is yet another problem that will be solved with the casual application of time-travel. Or if you have a brother who subsequently marries your mother, what would your other brothers become?
Heck, you could become your own uncle I'm a maog. Half man, half dog. I'm my own best friend. What if they clone your mother's brother and implant the embryo in her to give birth.
I guess that's still a half brother. I did do the nasty in the past-y. Q: What's heard most often at a redneck wedding? A: "Git yer hands off my sister-bride, uncle-dad! My father just bought a new house.
Your stepfamily includes people who became part of your family due to changes in family life. These changes may include death, divorce or separation. New partnerships create new children. The new children and their relatives become part of your blended family.
Some people are born into a stepfamily. Your sibling is your brother or sister. If you have 1 brother and 2 sisters, then you have 3 siblings. Because parents are living longer—but with chronic illnesses—their adult children are now caring for them for up to a decade or more. Siblings—or in some cases step-siblings—might not have a model for how to work together to handle caregiving and the many practical, emotional, and financial issues that go with it. There is no clear path guiding who should do what, no roadmap for how siblings should interact as mature adults.
While some families are able to work out differences, many others struggle. Siblings are also going through a major emotional passage that stirs up feelings from childhood. Watching our parents age and die is one of the hardest things in life, and everyone in the family will handle it differently.
You may find that needs arise for love, approval, or being seen as important or competent as a sibling. You may not even be conscious of these feelings, but they affect the way you deal with your parents and with each other. So without realizing it, you may all be competing with each other as you did when you were kids. This is a hard time, so have compassion for yourself, and try to have compassion for your siblings. That kind of understanding can defuse a lot of family conflict.
Caregiving may start when the sibling who lives nearby or has a close relationship to the parent helps out with small things. You may not even identify yourself as a caregiver at first, but then find yourself overwhelmed and feeling resentful of your siblings as your parent requires more help. But it can be a recipe for trouble. The family needs to spell out clearly what that person will be expected to do, whether there will be financial compensation, and how that will work.
In addition, the sibling s should be clear about what support tasks each will provide. You need to re-examine all these assumptions as a family. The best way to do this is to call a family meeting as early and, later, as often as possible.
If needed, a trusted person outside the family can facilitate. Whenever we get together with family, most of us tend to slip into our old roles, even though we behave differently when we are with other people.
But these roles may not work anymore. Parents may not be able to play the parts they did when the family was young, like making the decisions, providing emotional support, or smoothing tensions between family members. Maybe you were expected to be the responsible one; maybe your brother was seen as someone who needed taking care of. Maybe your other sister was groomed to go off and become the achiever while family chores were left to others. Parents create labels and roles for each child, and everyone in the family adopts them and assumes they are true.
They may be based on some reality, but parents may also assign these labels for all kinds of reasons: who was born first or last, which kid reminds Mom of her older sister whom she resented , which kid is most like Dad in personality—and how Mom feels about Dad!
Whatever the reasons for these roles, we need to re-examine them now. You may need to help them see that you can all adapt your roles to new times and who you are today. If you approach them differently, they may prove to be more helpful than you think possible.
The idea that you may soon lose Mom or Dad, or that they need more care, can be really scary. Some adult children still need their Mom to be the parent. Some get over-anxious and think the parent is in bigger trouble than they are. These differences are common. Here are some ways to handle this:. But you may also have other less conscious, emotional needs that can actually make things harder for you.
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